Life Lessons with Relationships!
Today I am going to be talking about relationships... Okay this is definetely not a topic that I would most like to talk about. Because right now, this is definetely a hard and raw topic for me. But I would love to encourage others that may be going through something similar like me.
When I started high school I was extremely boy crazy and wanted a guy to like me so badly. I honestly was so extremely immature when it came to guys that I liked. And every single one of the young men that I liked, the whole thing ended up in a bad situation. Finally when I was a Senior in high school, I had the attitude that guys were stupid and I wanted to be done with them for a VERY long time.
For about five months, I continued with that attitude.. But then I started really admiring a young man that I was pretty sure would have been the one that I was going to one day marry.
This young man and I started liking one another and we started moving way too fast. At the time, I thought that the relationship was healthy. But little did I realize, I was compromising my spiritual growth, I was compromising with my beliefs and everything.
I was falling for this young man so much, that little did I know him and I would not end up together.
This past Summer, I thought that this young man and I would have been able to date in the near future... I was getting so excited and I started losing sight of what the real purpose for dating this young man would have been.
I didn't realize but I was becoming so obsessed with this relationship that I started forgetting to continue to trust the Lord with this relationship. I started slowly not spending time with the Lord daily, because I was getting what I wanted.
Honestly, I so regret backing away from the Lord when I was getting what I wanted...
No matter what goes on in life, I need to always cling to the Lord... not just when things aren't going my way.
When the "mess" started:
Honestly this whole thing is super hard for me to talk about, because it is all so fresh... But I want to be here for anyone else that is reading this and possibly going through a very similar situation.
At the beginning of Summer I was still in love with this young man, and was wanting the day to come quickly so that we could date.
One day though I found out that this young man was kind of interested in some other young woman.
I continued to be a good friend to this young man even though he said he wasn't interested in me any longer.
Shortly after trying to be friends again, he randomly backed out of my life and now no longer talks to me and in fact has blocked me completely out of my life
Things I am learning through all of this "mess":
I don't want to post this to be talking about this young man and being rude about him. That is not my intention AT ALL. Instead I wanted to share this situation because I want to encourage others that may be in the same place that I have been in.
Honestly I am still learning a ton from all that has recently gone on...
I realized that I was:
When I started high school I was extremely boy crazy and wanted a guy to like me so badly. I honestly was so extremely immature when it came to guys that I liked. And every single one of the young men that I liked, the whole thing ended up in a bad situation. Finally when I was a Senior in high school, I had the attitude that guys were stupid and I wanted to be done with them for a VERY long time.
For about five months, I continued with that attitude.. But then I started really admiring a young man that I was pretty sure would have been the one that I was going to one day marry.
This young man and I started liking one another and we started moving way too fast. At the time, I thought that the relationship was healthy. But little did I realize, I was compromising my spiritual growth, I was compromising with my beliefs and everything.
I was falling for this young man so much, that little did I know him and I would not end up together.
This past Summer, I thought that this young man and I would have been able to date in the near future... I was getting so excited and I started losing sight of what the real purpose for dating this young man would have been.
I didn't realize but I was becoming so obsessed with this relationship that I started forgetting to continue to trust the Lord with this relationship. I started slowly not spending time with the Lord daily, because I was getting what I wanted.
Honestly, I so regret backing away from the Lord when I was getting what I wanted...
No matter what goes on in life, I need to always cling to the Lord... not just when things aren't going my way.
When the "mess" started:
Honestly this whole thing is super hard for me to talk about, because it is all so fresh... But I want to be here for anyone else that is reading this and possibly going through a very similar situation.
At the beginning of Summer I was still in love with this young man, and was wanting the day to come quickly so that we could date.
One day though I found out that this young man was kind of interested in some other young woman.
I continued to be a good friend to this young man even though he said he wasn't interested in me any longer.
Shortly after trying to be friends again, he randomly backed out of my life and now no longer talks to me and in fact has blocked me completely out of my life
Things I am learning through all of this "mess":
I don't want to post this to be talking about this young man and being rude about him. That is not my intention AT ALL. Instead I wanted to share this situation because I want to encourage others that may be in the same place that I have been in.
Honestly I am still learning a ton from all that has recently gone on...
I realized that I was:
- Trying to play God's role
- Not trusting God
- Trying to control
- Not being patient
There is so much more that I have learned through all of this. But I definitely realized that I was trying to take control. I was trying to date when I wanted to no matter what the case was... Even if that meant compromising to a lower standard for my Spiritual and emotional growth.
This whole situation has definitely hurt me... There is so much more details that I haven't shared (But I will keep from sharing those things because they are more personal for the people involved in the situation), but honestly God has been teaching me so much through all of this.
Honestly, I don't blame all of this on the young man that was interested... Sure he could have done some things differently... But I could have definitely done things differently in this situation... And I could have avoided so much hurt that I didn't have to cause me or others involved.
There is so much more I could say, but right now I am just going to share a few things that I have learned through my situation:
- Trust God in everything! -Definetely something that I need to remember! God has a great plan for our lives. And He totally has the right timing for everything!
- I need to be patient and wait on Him for the right man that will come into my life.- I don't need to control and try to push a guy to like me or want to date me... Because God will bring the right man in at the right time in my life.
- Sit back and look up to our Savior!
There are so many days where I wake up discouraged and feel as if I will never get married or be able to date. But you know what, we just need to trust the Lord. He has the perfect one for us. God is amazing! All we need to do is lay these concerns down at the feet of Jesus, and He will help us.
Please know that you are not alone! So many people go through these things... And I am one of these people.
God has the one, trust Him!
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