Priceless!

For several years, I have heard comments about guy/girl relationships (from several different people) go like this:

• "Is he/she good looking?"
• "Are they as smart or smarter than you?"
• "Are they skinny or 'normal' size?"
• "Are they as good as you are at ________ (fill in the blank)?"
• "Do they have health problems?"

And the list goes on...

To be honest these kinds of question really make me upset that people are so focused on these types of questions. Honestly, does it matter to people so much about whether someone is skinny or the "perfect" size? Does it really matter if they are gorgeous or hot on the outside? Does it really matter if people have a health problems and they aren't like completely "healthy"?

I am not saying that one shouldn't take care of themselves... Because everyone should take care of themselves as best as they can... But there is only so much that one can do to better their health.

I am talking about this subject, because I know that I have personally experienced these things... I have been on the receiving end to this.

So many people today look and think that if they can't have a someone who is a "perfect" size or someone who doesn't have health problems, etc... Then people think they shouldn't date that person.

What is our world turning into? Seriously, it drives me crazy to see how people won't date someone just for these things. Some people don't give others a voice and they don't know people's stories.

I think that as long as someone is trying to work on their health problems, weight stuff, etc... Then people shouldn't just shun them and think they aren't worthy of dating.

I want to be VERY CLEAR... I am not writing this all up to say that I am worthy of someone dating and I am not saying that someone should just fall in love with me and date me. I am just here for those who are in my position. Honestly, I know how badly it can hurt to have people think these things of you... So I want to be here to encourage those you have been in my situation.

Here is a little history about me:

• I am adopted-- So growing up, I didn't know all the health problems that can be passed down to me. Therefore growing up I've always struggled with health stuff and little by little we have found out some things... But still to this day we don't know everything.
  
  --However it has been very difficult for me. I have always struggled with my weight. Even on diets there were times I was gaining weight or not losing weight. Growing up I didn't overeat and I really didn't eat unhealthy.
  -Some people look at me today though and think that I just am an overweight person and they assume everything (they assume everything the worst of me).

Honestly, yes I do struggle with health issues and I do struggle with my weight... However the point is, I try my best to stay healthy. And that is the best I can do!

Guys may not find me attractive because of my weight or because of  my health issues or because I am not as smart as them academically.

HOWEVER, Girls/Guys if you struggle with health or anything similar to this, DON'T allow these kinds of things that people say make you feel useless or unworthy. Right now while you all read this, you may be thinking something like this:

"Hannah, but you don't understand how depressed this makes me feel when someone doesn't love me."

You know what, I have been through that. I have let myself get depressed to the point of being so weak I could barely move. I've felt paralyzed at times because I didn't feel worthy of love, I felt like a mistake... I felt like no one would ever love me.

I am NOT saying that these kinds of things that are said aren't hurtful... Because they are VERY hurtful.

I want to tell you all something though... I have been in these exact situations with a guy... I have had guys tell me that I am not pretty enough, or my health problems are an issue for them, or I am not academically smart enough for them, or I am not skinny enough.

But you know what, as much as those words hurt hearing. You HAVE to remind yourself that those people that say those things to you are NOT worthy of your love.

If a guy/girl says these things to you, they would never respect you in a relationship, they will never appreciate you for who God has MADE YOU TO BE.

DON'T let people make you think that you are useless... Because each and every one of you are: PRICELESS.

In closing, don't let others tell you that you aren't good enough to date... When it is God's timing, He will have the PERFECT person for you at the PERFECT time!

Don't let other define who you are... You need to let Christ define you!